How to keep your boyfriend when you get him back

Are you going through the aftermath of a breakup right now? Maybe the breakup occurred because you accused him of making sheep's eyes at some other woman. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't, but now you want him back anyway.

If you are regretting the breakup, and want your boyfriend back, you will get him back - just work yourself into the right mindset and take up the proper strategy.

And once you get your man back, you may just want to consider another issue: how are you going to make sure he stays? How are you going to prevent any further breakups?

Here's something that will most probably startle you: chances are high your boyfriend didn't stray because he found somebody else hot, willing and young, somebody with physical attributes you have grown out of.

Chances are your boyfriend developed lateral vision because like all men, he was craving admiration from the women in his life, and he felt that you weren't gushing over him enough. The truth is most men - especially those who feel they don't get enough admiration at home - get into affairs with "other" women who make them feel like they are the last word in manhood.

It's like this: most men's hormones work such that if they don't feel admired by their women, they become prey for any woman who comes along and makes a play at them. It matter what that woman's physical attributes are. If she knows how to play up to the guy's vanity, she will probably get her way.

Consider this situation: a man feels neglected at home, but his female colleagues at work are always telling him how smart he is... how dashing.. how handsome. They are boosting his ego which is taking a beating at home - at least according to his own perception. So what do you think is going to happen?

When a guy's gal has the knack of making him feel like he's the man, she's going to keep her relationship with him safe from all competition, because she's putting up "anti-competition" armor around it.

And so she's keeping herself safe from the possibility of some slinky competitor somewhere slithering away with her man.

If you are regularly telling your guy how great he is, he will do just about anything to keep your admiration, and to maintain your relationship at peak health.

Hope that helps. Now go ahead and win your boyfriend back.

Vanity is so secure in the heart of man that everyone wants to be admired:  even I who write this, and you who read this.  – Blaise Pascal