Getting back with your ex: Eager beavers get meager returns

Here’s a pointer that will beef up your prospects of undoing your recent breakup and getting back with your ex. It’s a tip that will show you exactly how to respond to any overtures made by your ex lover. Remember: getting an ex back is not going to be easy. You can’t make your ex want you back just by expressing your own desires for this to happen.

This tip is a jewel of breakup-reversing wisdom, and you will do well to give it close consideration, if you are serious about reviving your broken relationship and getting your lover right back into your life.

What’s this amazing secret? Here you are: you may have the very best of good intentions about getting your ex back, but you could still unknowingly goof up by being an eager beaver and leaping before you look.

Just how could something like that happen? One way to goof up is to ignore the absolute need for delicacy and moderation at all points of your making up efforts. It is obvious that you can only succeed in having your way by avoiding conflict: don’t get into blame games over who said this, who did that and who was at fault for that other thing. It also goes without saying that you must react with no hostility if your lover should bring up some blame game issues. You have to be receptive to any signals your ex is sending to you: does your ex want to get back with you; does your ex still harbor any doubts. You have got to be subtle as you try to make your ex want you back.

You want to demonstrate a fine sense of tolerance if your ex does bring up any issues. You will surely open up the chasm between your lover and yourself with any lapses in judgment. This is something you’ve just got to avoid. At all costs, you don’t need a return to a mutual gripe session full of “You said this, I didn’t” and “You did that, I didn’t”. That is no way of getting an ex back.

Keep that in mind as you meet your ex in a cozy nook somewhere, maybe having some coffee as you sound out each other. This meeting is your first face-to-face session with your ex since your breakup, and both of you are judging the possibilities of a reunion. You are hoping he is as receptive as you are to the idea of getting back with your ex.

That is as it should be, since it is the essential first step. Make sure, though, that you keep it short. Don’t dilly-dally – a maximum of half an hour should suffice. Abstain from pushing your luck, and stay away from arguments. Use no threats, use no desperate pleas. Try to convey your seriousness and sincerity to your ex; let them know that you are being circumspect; you are allowing them sufficient space to work things out and reach a decision at their own speed, free of any pressure. Let it be seen that you have seriously thought over getting back together with your ex.

If your lover does raise the subject of getting back together – refrain from bouncing around like a roo on a pogo stick. Take some time before you answer, and do so with dignity. Use words like “Sounds great, but I think we should take it slow and give it some time”. Be sure, though, to transmit the clear impression to your ex that you are not against the idea of reuniting. You are only being cautious so that both of you can avoid any more misapprehensions and pain.

At all events, what you absolutely should not do, is collapse into your ex’s embrace at the first sign your ex wants you back. Even worse, don’t attempt to get physically intimate at this time.

You will save yourself a lot of pain again in the future if you make dead sure that any mutual decision to get together again is worked out with a sensible use of both heart and mind; in the process of getting an ex back, there should be no room for blind unthinking emotion. Another painful breakup lurks in the future if adequate thought is not given to the decision.

Of course, you don’t want that. What you do want is the certainty of getting back with your ex and at the same time, the certainty that there will be no nastiness in future.

So what’s stopping you? Move – make your ex want you back.

How to keep your boyfriend when you get him back

Are you going through the aftermath of a breakup right now? Maybe the breakup occurred because you accused him of making sheep's eyes at some other woman. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't, but now you want him back anyway.

If you are regretting the breakup, and want your boyfriend back, you will get him back - just work yourself into the right mindset and take up the proper strategy.

And once you get your man back, you may just want to consider another issue: how are you going to make sure he stays? How are you going to prevent any further breakups?

Here's something that will most probably startle you: chances are high your boyfriend didn't stray because he found somebody else hot, willing and young, somebody with physical attributes you have grown out of.

Chances are your boyfriend developed lateral vision because like all men, he was craving admiration from the women in his life, and he felt that you weren't gushing over him enough. The truth is most men - especially those who feel they don't get enough admiration at home - get into affairs with "other" women who make them feel like they are the last word in manhood.

It's like this: most men's hormones work such that if they don't feel admired by their women, they become prey for any woman who comes along and makes a play at them. It matter what that woman's physical attributes are. If she knows how to play up to the guy's vanity, she will probably get her way.

Consider this situation: a man feels neglected at home, but his female colleagues at work are always telling him how smart he is... how dashing.. how handsome. They are boosting his ego which is taking a beating at home - at least according to his own perception. So what do you think is going to happen?

When a guy's gal has the knack of making him feel like he's the man, she's going to keep her relationship with him safe from all competition, because she's putting up "anti-competition" armor around it.

And so she's keeping herself safe from the possibility of some slinky competitor somewhere slithering away with her man.

If you are regularly telling your guy how great he is, he will do just about anything to keep your admiration, and to maintain your relationship at peak health.

Hope that helps. Now go ahead and win your boyfriend back.

Vanity is so secure in the heart of man that everyone wants to be admired:  even I who write this, and you who read this.  – Blaise Pascal

Use a secret ingredient you already have to get back together with your ex

Are you gritting your teeth through the aftermath of a recent breakup?  Do you know you already possess the secret ingredient that can show you how to get your ex back quickly?


Harness this ingredient, and you won’t have to mope around much longer driving yourself and your friends and family crazy over how to get back together with your ex.


Discover just what to do going ahead if you …


•    failed miserably in the repeated steps to get your ex back that you took …
•    were working with great hope on this solution first, then that one, then yet another, only to find that your hopes were crushed…
•    are frantic that your chances of winning your ex back into your arms are receding as time goes by …
•    are being told by just about everyone you have been confiding your troubles to that you are chasing a pointless dream, that you should just give it up and get on with your life, and you are sure deep in your heart that they are all wrong.


Easy, now. Take a deep breath, take several. Bring yourself back to earth. Just ask yourself if your desire to get back together with your ex is based on true passion? Are you sure, after everything that has gone by, that your ex is also regretting the breakup, and would be open to reviving your relationship?


Is the answer yes to both questions? There it was: the ingredient that you need to launch some sure steps to get your ex back...


Passion: the super ingredient that will get you exactly what you have been sweating over.


You have got to focus. Rinse out any anger you are feeling. Reject all the pain. Erase the hurt. No more blame games: no more they did this, I didn’t do that, they said this, I never said that…


Zoom in on this thought: “I feel strong passion about getting my ex back, and so, I AM going to get ‘em back”. Throw away the negative feelings that haunted you ever since you broke up with your lover. Key in on the passion in you:  you will find that all of a sudden, your problem is not all that insurmountable. You will be able to focus on just how to get your ex back quickly.


Passion is just the ingredient you need to propel you into steps to get your ex back, steps that will resolve your issues, revive your relationship, get your ex right back into your embrace.


Remember this; if there is no passion, teeny worthless non-issues become major dividing factors. A little bit of jealousy and some over-possessiveness are for the most part companions of genuine passion. Taken too seriously, these feelings can create problems that are molehills made to look like mountains. Taken with a pinch of salt, they become meaningless.


Take up some steps to get your ex back.


Even the president needs passion
Everybody I know needs some passion
-    Rod Stewart, Passion

You Did Say "Want My Ex Back?"

"Want my ex back" is probably the response you would give if asked what you want most right now. Are you riding a fragile boat in the maelstrom of a broken relationship?

Your relationship has hit an iceberg. You are feeling titanic pain - you long for the old days. You desperately want to want to know how to get your ex back, and you just are not getting anywhere.

All of your family, friends and well-wishers are dumping full container loads of homilies, axioms and other purportedly unsinkable, well-intentioned suggestions on you.

Probably, according to some of them, you should play hard to get with your ex; soon they will come crawling on their knees back to you.

Maybe some others will advise you to go to the other end of the spectrum: to eat crow, to go on your knees to your ex.

Possibly there is the camp that tells you to maintain a wronged, victimized attitude: shame will bring your ex back, seeking forgiveness.

Perhaps there are those who tell you to stay aloof and icy, portraying an I-should-give-a-damn attitude that will draw your ex back out of pique.

And, of course, there are likely those who would tell you to forget it all, and move ahead with your life.

The conundrum is: all of these methods have merit.

The sixty-four thousand dollar question is: which method will work for you - if any one will, that is?

Now, get this straight: Now that the ship looks like it is sinking, it is you - and just you, for all the well wishes of those around you - who must do what needs to be done.

Like with all pain, only the sufferer - you - will actually know where it hurts, only you can fight it.

All the advice in the world is going to be of no use until you find and lock onto your inner strength and resolve. The amazing truth is: your mind is your biggest weapon. Arm your mind, and nuke the obstacles. You will know how to get your ex back.

You can only work on getting your ex back successfully if you make a start with a firm, fearless answer to the primary question: "Am I certain I want my ex back?"

Almost certainly you do, otherwise you wouldn't be looking up articles like this. Once that's settled, here's what you do: Put yourself in a positive, optimistic frame of mind - with the right mind set, with unbreakable determination and perseverance, you will get what you want - your ex back.

Get some inspiration here - as THIS VIDEO tells you, the key to success is perseverance over failure. See this short video several times, let its message and spirit grab hold of you, and you have blown most of the obstacles away!

So there is the broad strategy you are going to employ - you know what you want, you feel good about the whole thing because you know you are going to succeed - and you will succeed! You will fulfill the promise in your life!

There is a tide in the affairs of men

Which taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;

Omitted, all the voyage of their life

Is bound in shallows and in miseries

- William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar

Now you just need to know the specific techniques that will get you what you want.

Discover what you want in The Magic of Making Up. Discover how to get your ex back. There is no real magic. There is no real abracadabra.

It is just the spellbinding techniques in The Magic of Making Up where you discover how to get your ex back, and it is just you and your will - switch your thinking from "I want my ex back" to "I'm damn well going to get my ex back!" and there you have it!

It is time to turn the tables. Progress from merely saying "I want my ex back".

Today is the first day of the rest of your life - Start it right.

- The Digger Papers.